SHE SAID... everyday I hear women say how bad they want a good man not just a good man... they want a good Godly man.. but how many really know what traits a Godly man possesses?? Why do you want a Godly man? As a Christian woman we should want a Godly man who first loves God and doesn't put us before his relationship with Him. If the man that you find yourself attracted to has an extreme love for God, you have a really good start!!!
One sign that a man is truly a man of God is his love for the Word... LADIES.... you should be excited about a man that knows his bible.. Not only does he know it but he lives it. The bible is our tool it's our words from God to us. Instructions on how to live life. If a man knows the word he knows how to LEAD he knows that as a virtuous woman you are valuable you are precious. Oh what a wonderful union with a man that can truly LEAD and knows how to lead under authority of our Father. This man who is a lover of the word will not steer you in the wrong direction because he knows the word. He offerce correction based on the word and can show you. He also makes you want to push to know the word more and studies it with you!!!
Now if a man is not a lover of the word think of how much will be missing in your relationship. If he doesn't know the words of our Father how can he even lead you and your home? How can he know what to do in times of trials? Ladies be mindful when meeting a man. Know him. Watch his love for the word!
HE SAID: You have taken words directly from my mouth! Something to be mindful of, which I will address particularly for a Godly man, is that trap woman. Outside of Jesus, I would contend that woman is God's most wonderful, beautiful creation. As such, they realize the inherent power that they have in a dating scenario. "Can't live with em, can't live without em." Possessing such value to your Godly man, many women will come along professing a faith similar to yours. MAKE SURE TO PAY ATTENTION! If, at any given time, she appears to love aspects of the relationship more than she loves and thirsts for God, make an immediate emergency exit lol.
Wait...this is about Godly attributes huh? Fellas, as difficult as they may be, make sure that boundaries are in place for your relationship. More specifically, make sure that these are boundaries that have been agreed on, rather than boundaries that you simply imposed upon her against her will. *It sounds weird to even think of a man setting boundaries, but a GODLY man encourages them, primarily because he plans to one day be the head of a household, and he does not want to lead his special woman down a path that does not please God. If you want a woman to follow you, be someone worthy of being followed!* Back to the boundaries. Since our biggest challenges all revolve around sexual temptation, be mindful of limitations that she applies regarding the physical progression of a relationship. Odds are that if there are no physical limitations (touching, kissing, even meeting hours), THE TWO OF YOU BECOME MORE SUSCEPTIBLE TO FALL. Limitations suck, but they should be encouraged! I'm paraphrasing, but my co-writer tweeted yesterday that the things the world sees as bondage (limitations), a Christian sees as freedom. Get free yall!
SHE SAID... how amazing is my co writer I just have to give him props for standing up and telling men that boundries are a necessity. Not just necessary for the growth of the relationship but also OUR SALVATION. Ladies if a man doesn't have boundries he is more then likely willing to go all the way he's just waiting for one of those nights you stay a little longer then you should. Keep in mind the later at night we stay over at his house and the longer we stay alone with him the easier it is to fall into temptations. Kissing goes to feeling, feeling goes to well you all know what happens. Lets be Mindful of limitations and boundries that we HAVE to have! Plus in the end... a beautiful blessed marriage also includes beautiful blessed sex!!!
Now on to our second point!! A Godly man is transparent and humble. He strives for humility. One of the biggest parts of this point is how he serves. No I'm not saying a man has to be a slave come on now ladies, BUT Jesus came to the world to SERVE NOT to be served. We are to be Christ-like. Which means we need to be servants. If a man professes to be Godly but doesn't have a serving bone in his body... then the probability he is not a Godly man, is pretty high. If he flaunts his money, uses his looks, finds tithing to be a waste of his time, you need to quickly leave the situation. Ladies.. a true man of God is striving to be Christ-like daily. He doesn't hold back he's humble. meek. He isn't afraid of his past or where he has come from. He is open about his testimony. He knows that God is who brought him to where he is and isn't afraid or ashamed to scream it from the roof tops.
In being humble this Godly man is not afraid to seek Godly counsel. He knows in front of our Father on his knees is where he is going to find answers and isn't afraid to take your hand and go there. Prayer life is a huge sign that he is a Godly man. If he cant kneel with you in prayer to get through the hard stuff or even to just praise God.. GIRL RUN... he's not a Godly man. A Godly man knows his life is nothing without our KING and the only way to get to him is through prayer. He's not too proud to say he doesn't know and needs to pray. His pride isn't so strong that he wont go to God when you guys are arguing. I cant stress how important prayer is in a relationship. We talked about what foundation is your relationship built on last time and now is the time to make sure and confirm that your relationship is built on God. You do that through prayer and knowing and living the Word.
HE SAID: Aww you flatter me! I'm just speaking from experience. We all know about P31 women, Proverbs 7 warns against a particular caliber of woman, one capable of enticing us simple minded, easily arousable male creatures (sorry, but it's the truth). Stay out of that woman's bedroom. Better still, stay out of that woman's house, grasp, presence...I think yall get it. Because if you begin to lust over her, your next thought will be "might as well act on it" lol. Ok enough about the P7 woman.
"Jesus came to the world to SERVE NOT to be served." That is simple. I won't tell anyone not to enjoy luxuries to an extent, but be careful what you will do to attain these luxuries! I can almost assure you that these characters in Hollywood, as well as professional athletes, that we consider "cocky" came from some semblance of humble beginnings. Material acquisition has a way of so subtly altering our values. THIS is the reason that we should be humble, and under that same umbrella, strive for modest lifestyles as servants of the Lord.
Now that we realize the value of humility, a relationship in which you are humble and your partner is not is almost destined to crash and burn. She will have a much better shot at relaxing your values than you will of impressing yours on her. As I mentioned earlier, a Godly man or woman will not love their relationship more than they love God, and as a result, he will not seek answers to any relationship trials in anyone but God. Now that is humility. Knowing, as it appears in Galatians 6, "If you think you are something WHEN YOU ARE REALLY NOTHING, you are only deceiving yourself."
Sidenote regarding not loving your relationship more than God...when the two of you enter into a union that incorporates God in EVERY facet imaginable and your treatment of each other reflects such, you will truly be able to love your partner because you are essentially loving the Godliness that they portray.
SHE SAID... how do I even try to say anything after what you said.. PRAISE GOD.. WOW our relationships should ALWAYS glorify God!! How amazing of a feeling knowing that you're equally yoked and you both are bringing glory to our Father with what we do.. AMAZING..but LADIES dont be that woman in Proverbs 7 she is not who we should be tailoring our lives to.
BUT lets go to our third and final quality... HE IS NOT WILLING TO COMPROMISE HIS FAITH OR ASK YOU TO COMPROMISE YOURS... LADIES if he's willing to let you compromise your faith to satisfy his own fleshly desires he's NOT as Godly as you may think.... a Godly man knows his salvation is NOT worth a few minutes of pleasure. He wont ask you to sin either. I know from experience, a man who is not true to his walk with Christ is not going to be true to you.. and LADIES he's not the man for you. A Godly man wont settle knowing that what God has for him is the best. He wont settle for a woman who is mediocre in her walk with God. He wont waiver on that either... Ladies...a man who is stronger in the Lord then you could actually be a major blessing in your life. His knowledge should exite you..
A Godly man isn't as hard to find as you think.. but like my co writer said ladies.. be what attracts a Godly man... but know that you will also be desired by luke warm Christian men. Keep your eyes open. Make sure he's walking his talk. Does he open his Bible A LOT. Can he recite scriptures. Does he give you an immediate answer when you ask him why he loves God so much.. Does he club, party, and drink? Come on you know that a Godly man is not going to put himself in a place that is unholy and could cause him to fall. How is his prayer life? Does he lead you to want to know more of Jesus or are you guys skipping church on Sunday? Are you guys compromising your values just to get a "lil bit closer." Does he lack self control? How is he when he waits for the Lord to answer? Is he forgiving or is he holding onto a past that is causing him to be bitter. Ladies dont be fooled... Keep your eyes open and your hearts listening to GOD. Watch the signs Be discerning and alert! Dont let your flesh control you!
HE SAID: Nothing. Lol. Don't you hate when your co-writer is so dope that she doesn't leave anything for you to say LOL!! Shoot all I was going to say is that if he/she will cheat on God then he/she will cheat on you. Beat me to it!! Be cognizant of these questions that she just asked as well, as they can be tell tale signs. Be encouraged saints. He/she will come, just make sure that you are doing the things necessary to be ready when he/she gets there. God Bless!!
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