HE SAID: I am all for honesty, so before you hit me with the cliche, I suggest taking some time to examine facts. An old quote that I have used in my writing, "I think we employ too much society and not enough God in our relationships." As a result of this notion, we end up engaging in unions that we should not, and we end up staying in unions that we shouldn't. Ask yourself...Does it have to do with the time invested and the potential to view this as a wasted relationship? Are we such hopeless romantics that we KNOW it will work out in the end? Or can it be tied back to the soul ties that we have acquired? As children of God, we should realize that our dating pool will NEVER be as large as others, for the simple fact that our lifestyles will not match up with the masses. We are advised in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
And if we receive these words, but feel for some strange reason that we are capable of being the one individual on earth who can weather the dating storm and change the individual that we are with, this serves as a reality check. I will be the first to say that I have ignored such advice, and it caused me quite a bit of turmoil in my relationship. I believed that she could grow to the level of faith that I had acquired, and I was wrong. It was the other way around. My partner and I weren't even having sex, but nonetheless I began to notice a change in my behavior that I know God would not be pleased with. It is much easier to live in darkness, with no rules, than it is to live a life of righteousness. With that knowledge comes the point of not being unequally yoked. Those displaying lawlessness have a potential to bring us down to their level of behavior. Be sure, before entering into uncharted territory, that you and your partner have established God as the focus of your union. "Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain." (Psalm 127:1)
SHE SAID....so many women are willing to compromise just a little bit to get what it is they have been wanting their whole lives... when I say compromise I am saying compromising their faith.. the one thing we shouldn't compromise we do. True there is a lack of "godly" men and women out there but we as Kingdom Reps have to stand strong on the promises of God. We ourselves cannot change anyone we have to first be changed and then wait for our Lord to bring us the man/woman he has intended for us.
Too often we spend our time trying to make something work with someone that wasn't meant for us. Our foundations crack and shake.. they eventually crumble and the whole time we were spending on the wrong person the "right" person has probably passed us by a few times. We spend so much time forcing something we lose focus of what is really important and that is Gods Glory. If our relationships dont first honor God then he will not honor our relationship. 9 our of 10 times we think we can change someone. That we can get them to our level of faith, but the result usually ends up being they have brought us down to their levels... skipping church, not praying, sometimes even having sex... a formula for definite destruction.
HE SAID: Soooo true! And the change takes place so gradually that we fail to realize that our once solid foundation, built upon the rock of our Lord and Savior, has been dismantled pebble by pebble, until that one pebble sends the entire house down in shambles. Now add insult to injury. Ultimately, that time that you skipped church, neglected to pray, or consummated the relationship outside the confines of God's intentions WILL NOT MAKE HIM/HER STAY. If you were the one getting them to represent your Christian values, they would be gone in a heartbeat. So why not use that as the motivation for resisting to conform to their values, for the sake of salvaging the relationship. Salvage that relationship, and sacrifice a relationship with God? No thank you! You can only make one stay who has previously decided to approach life similarly to yourself, especially when it comes to faith and religion. Resist the urge to attach yourself emotionally to those who do not enhance your walk with Christ.
SHE SAID... find someone who compliments you not supplements something missing. If we come as a whole person to a relationship and what we offer is pure we dont have to worry about our foundations crumbling because we know that God is our focus. A relationship has to be built on God first. Then and only then will it last. BUT making it last is going to take work. You will face attacks and nay sayers. You will face tempations and tests. Remember God is the FOCUS glory should be brought to him through the way we live our lives both individually and collectively. If someone is willing to compromise their salvation just for a few moments of pleasure then you should quickly run to the exit. Dont stay because they could easily talk you into it. All it takes is a look a few touches and there it goes...
Our foundations that are built on God will not crumble unless we let them!!
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